1. Don’t take things personally unless it helps you grow into a better version of yourself.
Getting mad and taking the weather personal isn’t going help you grow. This summer, I lost a sprint triathlon to my friends because I didn’t train, and I took it personally. “Shit man, what the fuck Trevor. You can do better.” Taking my loss personally actually made me do more training, eat better, and act more responsibly in the rest of my life (which helps me grow into a more productive, resilient person). I get mad at myself when I travel and don’t enjoy the culture and people. If I travel poorly, or have a bad attitude about feeling uncomfortable, I take it personal and change my mindset.
2. Find your Pluto and Venus before your Mars.
Okay, let me explain this love theory. PS., this should be number one, since marrying or promising the wrong person your love can account for a lot of pain, money, and misery in finding a better life.
The first planet (let’s call it Venus) orbiting us is sexual attraction. Venus has the easiest orbit. “Oh, look, she’s hot.” “Dammmn boy, he got them glutes.”
Here, in this sexually charged orbit, humans get infatuated and feel butterflies, go wild, and have great sex seventy-five times a week. Unfortunately, with Venus, it never goes much deeper. The other two planets (Mars — unconditional love and Pluto —compatible friendship ) may just be on the other side of the sun while you are on the other side of the moon. But even from the other side of the sun, with a great erotic orbit, Venus can sync with Mars, the third most important planet orbiting us — the planet that produces unconditional love.
In Mars’ orbit, it actually always overlaps Venus and Pluto, but rarely happens with all three planet’s orbits. Pluto is the most important planet to me. It’s like seeing a total eclipse if you get all three planets orbiting together. Most people give up on Mars, Venus, and Pluto ever coming together. Most people just accept Pluto and Mars, or Venus and Mars, and leave the third planet out entirely.
Don’t do that.
The real problem is you can’t try too hard to get Venus and Mars aligned with Pluto. It just happens. Take it slow and watch the friendship unfold. Mars tends to happen regardless, through time, attraction, sex endorphins, friendship, physical intimacy, compatible values, history, and comfort.
Even if Venus and Pluto aren’t all that compatible as best friends, teammates, and lovers, Mars can still start to sync with one of them and fool you. My ex-girlfriend (Venus) aligned with my Mars, but not my Pluto. I will unconditionally always love her. Even if in the end, our Pluto orbits passed each other like silent planets passing in the night.
The truth is this: find your Pluto and Venus first. Don’t rush in on Venus on and let Mars get in the way too quick. Just focus figuring out the Plutos that have some Venus attraction. If you can truly align those two planets, you’ll live a better life.
Best friends you want to bang are like a total eclipse of the heart.
3. Travel to the ends of the world for this Pluto — male or female — even if you never get the Venus.
I kind of already talked about this in point two, but truthfully, joy is found in finding Plutos in your life. If you find Pluto and Venus, just make sure you buckle up. Even having all three planets orbiting each other in unison, you will most likely lose track of one at some point. Make sure you try to get it back in line as quick as you can.
4. Don’t be afraid or if you do feel afraid, don’t be afraid to act courageously despite your fear.
I think this one goes without saying, but I see a lot of scared people out there. Afraid to take chances. Afraid to say hello on the street. Afraid to ask a question. Afraid to take a risk. Afraid to be uncomfortable.
5. Ask your closest friends what your biggest weaknesses are.
This exercise kind of makes you feel silly, but truthfully, your male or female Plutos know you so well, they can help you grow. A Pluto lately told me: “I’m too negative.”
Ironically, the stuff I write about is trying to change the attitudes of Americans to begin living happier lives. I feel discontent about our culture and it comes out around my friends. Interesting, I thought. Very interesting.
This is something I’ll watch from here on out. My attitude and voice towards the world around me.