I’m happy to read your findings are aligned with something I’ve felt from the ending of my 20 years of college and pro basketball as I now head into the real world void that exists for people that lack the knowing and exercising of their own values.
This lack-of-knowing-your-values-place feels like incessant lackluster moments and finishes with a right hook of underachievement in living a life of meaning.
My God, if productivity, startups, anxiety, depression, self-worth, self-love, culture, and being an entrepreneur could be seen from this place of understanding and light — that knowing your values can change what you would ever do in the first place. Pass on the shitty startup idea you’ll have to work for ten years to sell. Say no to the new shiny raise and cushy job in the corner cubicle who’s culture you still hate.
Values unexamined or untouched could slowly create madness in every one’s lives — this in turn will create tension in one’s soul that may actually manifest in negative thoughts, subconscious feelings, and complicated emotions.
They will rise to the surface as the very thing you despise.
Until you start living your values, your process of healing the only soul you own is caught in a landslide that isn’t your own.
Let me tell you what I’ve felt as I’ve gotten to know myself through journaling and reflection since my retirement from professional athletics.
A set of values never examined is a black hole of emotion, feeling, thought, and meaning. Without knowing your own values, you will be a rudderless boat, listlessly floating towards a destination of what the world gives you.
Until you are fed up and decide to change, you just float along.
I fucking hate floating along, it causes me anxiety and this type of article is exactly why we shouldn’t float along (unless that is where we want to float because it aligns with the values we hold dear).
Thank you for sharing these inspirational practices and words, James.
I write to this and want to do more research like you do, but this intuitively has been in my heart for some time and I have felt the need to write about it.
The beauty of values is they start from the inside and work their way out into your external life; calling clients, finishing emails, finding love, keeping love, building ideas, loving your community, friends, and family, yes, the values you are aware of build the foundation of happiness and measure of your own success (notice I said, measure of your success not what the measure of what someone else thinks of your success).
What better way to figure your values out then to write a daily journal about it or even better, the Integrity Report.
Goddaaaaaaamn, you are my hero. *wink, wink, in a healthy way value driven respectful sort of way.
But shit balls, seriously, this is a genius way to stay abreast of a soul’s change through time and space, isn’t it?