“Don’t obsess over perfection or attach yourself to only one outcome and you won’t misidentify yourself as a failure.” — TH

1. Why do I care if my invention fails, startup flounders, my book flops, or my lover doesn't want to talk about the argument we had last night? Just keep putting your best effort into this thing you truly care about. Foolishness, embarrassment, and ridicule come with the territory of your success.

2. Practice getting into the flow state. With people. Work. Fitness. Relationships. I tend to find the flow state through writing, or authentic friendships, playing a competitive…

1. Stop caring what a stranger or your micro/macro society thinks about you — if you don’t, you’ll be a prisoner to them forever.
2. Start caring what your closest friends, family, and loved ones think, the ones you’d trust with your life, money, relationship, or startup ideas.
3. Fucking go for it. Why not? Tell me why not. One day, 10 years, 20 years, 30 years from now you may be dead (or not fit enough to do what you wanted to do now). …

“The list of mistakes you can never recover from is very short.

But you likely realize your life will not be destroyed if your book doesn’t sell or if a potential date turns you down or if your startup goes bust. It’s not the failed outcome that paralyzes us. It’s the possibility of looking stupid, feeling humiliated, or dealing with embarrassment that prevents us from getting started at all.

The first step to being courageous is being willing to look foolish.” — James Clear

My Best 6 Life Advice Tips

1. The most interesting, successful people in the world recover from failure quicker than the average human…

1. Say no more often. James Clear breaks this yes/no dilemma down pretty well. Every time you say “yes,” to someone or something outside your scope of mastery/purpose/startup/passion, you’re giving your time to something in the future or present that takes time/energy/focus away from the very thing you should be doing if you want to succeed. Whew, that was a mouthful.
2. Learn to deal with and find the optimal level of hassle. With anything you do, or want to be great at doing, there is a certain amount of hassle one must do to find greatness. Every pro basketball player has…

What is your version of luxury?

A fine French wine?

Being off-grid?

A new pair of Gucci’s?

A Louis Vuitton purse?

Being a minimalist?

A superficialist?

In the end, why do we choose what we choose?

Do we choose to be a minimalist because it’s the fad? Because it was a documentary? Or is there something you truly love inside the simple pleasures of having less? And then what is the difference from those that enjoy having more?

Does light not exist without dark?

Do we need to be something in the absence of something else?

How do we find…

hey thanks april. i write and things happen that i'm not always sure why. writing is one of those presence moments for me. time floats away.

How to Expect Great Things of

Your startup, your athlete, and your life — how this theory helps you get what there

“Life is short. And if life is short, then moving quickly matters. Launch the product. Write the book. Ask the question. Take the chance. Be thoughtful, but get moving.” — James Clear

I was always and still can be an anxious human. When I let this state win, it would stop me from moving forward. So instead, as a kid, I would listen to Enya or classical music and shut my eyes before games, visualize how I would play, what I would do, and how I would react to adversity.

The anticipation of playing high school, collegiate, and pro basketball…

A Pro Athlete on the Growth Mindset

How living with virtuous values, presence, and sports taught me how to live better

“Life is short.

And if life is short, then moving quickly matters. Launch the product. Write the book. Ask the question. Take the chance. Be thoughtful, but get moving.” — James Clear

I was always and still can be an anxious human. When I let this state win, it would stop me from moving forward. So instead, as a kid, I would listen to Enya or classical music and shut my eyes before games, visualize how I would play, what I would do, and how I would react to adversity. I would hand the reins over to a higher power…