You want to do more for your New Year’s Resolution in 2021.
You want to create momentum so you write a 2021 New Year’s Resolution that will truly change your life.
You want to be great, get that six-pack back, and reach a milestone.
You want to be free to choose your next big thing.
As a former pro athlete, people ask me where my inspiration came from, and I get annoyed by the notion of it. I rarely feel inspiration. …
2. Losing isn’t fun. But winning isn’t fun without knowing what losing feels like. You can’t try to take the big shot, or make a life change, or pick up and go because you are scared of losing. Winning takes constant small risks to put yourself out there day after day, and in the end, losing (or getting shot down with the woman you want to ask out) is what makes winning feel so damn good.
3. Don’t take losing personally. If you want to get to winning sooner, if you want to get to the hot partner you can’t believe you landed, remember losing is just one small moment in time. Move on quickly if you lose — like missing the shot in the big game, or the super smokin’ hot girl that shoots you down, or falling short of a record or goal — get back on the horse as soon as you can. Go ask the next woman out. Go take the next shot. Keep swingin’ for the fences. Get back to eating keto or the nutrition plan. Get back to the gym. …
Christmas lights flicker in the early morning in Petoskey, Michigan. The snow falls, layered in fluffy, light flakes, the stuff that can’t turn into snowballs. It’s the stuff that blows through your jacket like fine silt and melts quickly when it lands on your skin. This winter cold was typical of my childhood, and it reminds me of how far I’ve traveled and how much I’ve changed — and yet, how many things don’t change.
Like our American society.
After my 14-year pro athlete career ended, I used to have a meet-up every Saturday with Petoskey friends. We called this group, “The Think Tank.” We’d talk about business. About life. Relationships. Inventions. Ideas. …
“The costs of your good habits are in the present. The costs of your bad habits are in the future.” — James Clear
I mean, isn’t this self-help shit all the same?
I listen to self-help podcasts, read self-help and self-improvement books, and always try to keep learning about leadership, personal growth, and the growth mindset, but why?
Why is it I want to change? What is at the root of change? What is the psychology of change and the barriers to the life I’ve always wanted to live?
On one side, I have self-compassion, patience, and self-love, but on the other, my inner Stoic wants to practice grit, toughness, and critical feedback (and basically kick my own ass into gear!) …
Today is December 3rd, 2020 and it’s just another day.
The sun is out. The L rumbles by my Damen St. apartment, yet the world is in flux.
How can I make my life more meaningful? My day a masterpiece?
How can we reverse engineer our ideal life?
Let’s start with how I create my days (I’m not saying I have it all figured out, but I’m doing better and better):
If you wake up to inspiring, educational content, the world will seem less harsh. I walk 30 minutes with my dog listening to Tom’s podcast — even when it’s batshit cold (which it is). I like the cold. I want to learn to breathe and suffer through the cold. It’s a healthy practice for the mind and body. Wim Hof would be proud of me. Embrace the fear. The cold. …
I had a brain fart today.
I remember when I traveled to Cinque Terra, Italy. I thought, man, what do these people do without the internet, news, and the media?
What do they do without the entertainment, and the sports, ESPN’s highlight reels, presidential clips, and Instagram stories?
What do these people do when they can’t drive around their towns, or have a car, or how do they even talk to their family in Rome?
Can we go backward, or inward again, to what made our societies healthier, slow down, and more connected? …
“Most of us would be seized with fear if our bodies went numb, and would do everything possible to avoid it, yet we take no interest at all in the numbing of our souls.” — Epictetus
Stillness is the key to finding YOU!
Can you still, put away your phone, your computer, your distractions, (your kids), your job, and start listening to the ancient knowledge beneath your logical, or neurotic monkey mind?
This is something Ryan Holiday speaks to in his book, Stillness to the Key.
How to Grow Out of Your Comfort Zone is about every startup leader, every relationship, every time you ask for raise, every time you want to grow out of something and move into something better.
If you want wealth, or love, or fitness, or more time off, it’s about getting to that place your comfort zone, and pushing through it.
A lot of kids and parents asked, “How did you handle playing on ESPN or TV in Europe? Wasn’t it a ton of pressure?”
I immediately tell them of the time I was 2–22 for ESPN against Xavier or how I was held scoreless against Temple on CBS in the first round of the NCAA tournament. I tell them of my missteps. Of my fears. …
If you want to flourish, you need to understand two Stoic concepts: arete and eudaimonia. Arete: to live with virtue and excellence. To find your best self, and close the gap between who you are acting and behaving like right now and the person you know would bring out your best self (this my friends, is called the act of practicing arete=flourishing).
Without going inwards to find some answers, your greatest year ever is never going to happen (sorry, but we can’t live eudaimonia without the self-awareness of what that is for ourselves).
Happiness is just an emotional state and there are millions of reasons to be happy, but what keeps you happy (or less sad) and the next person happy is entirely different. …
“No matter where I work, the same truth keeps emerging. Neutral thinking is the key to unlocking a set of behaviors that can turn also-rans into champions and champions into legends.”-Trevor Moawad
If you aren’t willing to take the big shot, make a move, or make the crucial decision — tiny or colossal — maybe it’s because you haven’t practiced it in your mind first.
Leadership is learning to lead yourself first by knowing when to be hard on yourself (and when not to be).
If you can’t lead yourself to clean the house when you need to… if you can’t do today’s workout… if you know you need to have the talk… if you need to face the feelings that arise when you do something uncomfortable, or necessary, you have to be willing to take responsibility for the consequences of that…