My Love, Life, & Dating Tips for Your Thirties

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How to stay true to yourself while dating in your thirties can be very, very mysterious, like this woman’s picture.

If he desired to know about automobiles, he would, without question, study diligently about automobiles. If his wife desired to be a gourmet cook, she’d certainly study the art of cooking, perhaps even attending a cooking class. Yet, it never seems as obvious to him that if he wants to live in love, he must spend at least as much time as the auto mechanic or the gourmet in studying love. ~ Leo Buscaglia from Love

1. STUDY EXPERTS, RELATIONSHIPS, PEOPLE, AND AUTHORS THAT HAVE MORE EXPERIENCE IN LOVE THAN YOU DO

Modern romance. Technology. Wow. Thank you for this amazing introduction.

2. ONLINE DATING IS A JUST WAY TO MEET PEOPLE AND UNDERSTAND WHO THEY ARE IN REAL LIFE — NOT VIRTUAL LIFE

First you jump off the cliff and you build your wings on the way down. ~ Ray Bradbury

Who cares — attraction is fickle.

Chemistry is chemistry, just go with it.

“If you could be reincarnated as any animal or mythical creature in the world, what would you choose? Then if you could hang out with any tribe or pack of animals as your friends, what would that pack of animals be? Then give me three reasons or qualities of why you chose those two animals.

For example, I picked myself as Pegasus hanging out with monkeys.”

“Hmm,” she says. “This is a tough question. I think I’d be a unicorn.”

3. WHAT IS THE FOUNDATION OF WHAT YOU NEED your LOVE TO BE?

“As soon as the love relationship does not lead me to me, as soon as I in a love relationship do not lead another person to himself/herself, this love, even if it seems to be the most secure and ecstatic attachment I have ever experienced, is not true love. For real love is dedicated to continual becoming.” — Brian Johnson

Our positive interactions, the small ones, the seemingly meaningless moments made from nothing, must push us further into intimacy, not just the physical attraction of another human’s unicorn body.

4. SAY YES TO EXPERIENCES MORE OFTEN WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE WILLING TO WORK AT LOVE

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give me the laugh, the E.I., the adventure, the good communicator, and the teammate

“What we think is less than what we know: What we know is less than what we love: What we love is so much less than what there is; and to this precise extent, we are much less than what we are.” ~ R.D. Laing from “The Politics of Experience”

5. Finding real love online or offline is about finding a real-life synergy and symmetry of values, friendship, interests, and qualities that you are both aware of to live a balanced, growth-oriented life.

“Each path is only one of a million paths. Therefore, you must always keep in mind that a path is only a path. If you feel that you must not follow it, you need not stay with it under any circumstances. Any path is only a path. There is no affront to yourself or others in dropping it if that is what your heart tells you to do. But your decision to keep on the path or to leave it must be free of fear or ambition. I warn you: look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary.”

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